Tuesday, June 8, 2004
Ode to the nice guys
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Got this in an e-mail forward today. On Googling, discovered that it was written for the Wharton Undergraduate Journal by a student Fu-zu Jen. Parts of it rang so true! Am guessing every gal has a guy friend who’s done some (if not all) of this for her. So for all the wonderful guys in the world (you know who you are!) — A big heartfelt Thank You!
This is a tribute to the nice guys. The nice guys that finish last, that never become more than friends, that endure hours of whining and bitching about what asses guys are, while disproving the very point. This is dedicated to those guys who always provide a shoulder to lean on but restrain themselves to tentative hugs, those guys who hold open doors and give reassuring pats on the back and sit patiently outside the changing room at department stores. This is in honor of the guys that obligingly reiterate how cute/beautiful/smart/funny/sexy their female friends are at the appropriate moment, because they know most girls need that litany of support. This is in honor of the guys with open minds, with laid-back attitudes, with honest concern. This is in honor of the guys who respect a girl’s every facet, from her privacy to her theology to her clothing style. Read more..
Wonderfully Written.On one hand though it feels good to be lauded for something we are,I am not sure if the article is a compliment or a narrative saying why nice guys dont get any :-)
Tuesday, June 8, 2004 @ 4:11 PM
These anonymous commenters.. Tsk tsk :)
True, that’s one way of looking at it :) But I do believe that nice guys don’t necessarily finish last. Classic hare and tortoise funda. Patience does pay off and all that good stuff. As I always tell my ‘nice-guy’ friends, if a girl doesn’t see you for all the wonderful things you do for her and takes you for granted, then its her loss not yours.
Now its for the guys to decide whether they just want to ‘get some’ or eventually be the guy who takes the girl home to mom. :)
Tuesday, June 8, 2004 @ 4:29 PM
Its a massive full blown conspirazy I zay .. these potti log.. now feeling guilty and all ..after saalon ka torture .. apun to ek baat bolta hai shabhji ..hum bhi bahut acha bacha tha. potti bhi nahee pati ,shaadi ka khayal bhee nahee aaee , mummy na kabhee chai par bhee nahee bulaeee ..thunku bol diya to bas ? they think we will be like this only ? kindly excuse. no more.aane waale generation ke bhaiyon aur bhaiyon ke bhaiyon , ek haare hue khiladi ke baat suno no use becoming nice gai ,become bad sher :D.. yeah streeyon/nariyon ke soshon se bacho .dont get exploited i say.this is just trick to make you nausikhyas also fall into trap. you have been warned.
-President SENGKHA (Severely Exploited Nice Guy (phir bee) Kela Hua Association)
Tuesday, June 8, 2004 @ 6:50 PM
The way i see it..this is like the slow cycling race.. the last one to cross the finish line is the one who gets the bestest prize :-)
N this piece brought back nostalgic memories of school…My quiz team was called GGFL - Good guys finish last - n wot confounded ppl was that we used to win all the quizzes.. Nobody new the “real reason” behind our team name - now u know!! Wonderin’ how Shakir’s done in his life..tch tch !
Wonderful article Megha..Amazin’ how u end up with such lovely stuff..Can i link up ur blog from mine?
Wednesday, June 9, 2004 @ 3:00 AM
Very well written.But this can be generalised.
Not just boyfriend-girlfriend relationships.
Even between friends,Mother-son/dtr, father-son/dtr etc.
Some people give so much that other guy/girl forgets
and takes them for granted.
Anyway it’s boosted my chance to get a girl…
Time for me to go looking again !
Wednesday, June 9, 2004 @ 9:10 AM
Who ever is reading the article feels that he falls into one of these four catagories.
1. Almost/Exactly the same nice guy
2. Nah, not at all
3. A dilemma; Where do I belong?
4. Doesn’t matter/Don’t care
If you are of type 3, then forget choosing to be type 1. Just because this so called “Nice Guy” seems to be a characterless *******, who is ready to take any shit from another characterless *****. Pathetic.
******** dont take shit, but they give. This nice guy is a disgrace to our society of ********.
Now its time for you to spit your fire on me.
Wednesday, June 9, 2004 @ 12:38 PM
[Anirudh] Perhaps if the SENGKHA president spent less time hatching conspiracy theories, he’d have more time to disprove them :)
[Anonymous] I agree, some of this is not unique to a boyfriend-girlfriend relationship. Its a fine line that differentiates between ‘counting on someone to always be there for you’ and ‘taking them for granted’, I think.. then again maybe that delicate balance between the two that one seeks to achieve is what makes each relationship so unique. Good luck with your looking!
[Jupe] Perhaps that’s the advantage of being a ‘nice guy’. People don’t expect you to stand a chance, nobody thinks of you as a threat.. that sort of thing. I’ll be adding a link to your blog soon.. feel free to do the same! Shakir is doing well, he sends his best wishes, btw :)
Wednesday, June 9, 2004 @ 9:16 PM
Ah well! you can take a look at the ladder theory….and the dark abyss between ladders……
http://www.intellectualwhores.com
Have fun
Thursday, June 10, 2004 @ 2:00 PM
I’m so surprised the author of the article is a woman. While reading I thought to myself “Brother Fu-zu I totally empathize DUDE!!”.
Now that I know the writers sex I have to say….the world needs more chicks like you….and thank you.
and this is from the nice guy in m e…….your welcome!
Saturday, June 25, 2005 @ 3:58 PM
[sanky] Oops! I nearly missed this comment!
Your compliments shall be passed on to the gal writer in question. Or better still, tell her yourself :)
On a more serious note, I do think it is written very well.
Tuesday, July 5, 2005 @ 3:53 PM
I do not think it pays to be a nice guy at all
no girl wants to have anything to do with a nice guy.
those days are gone when nice guys who were looking for love and marriage used to be preferred…
nobody has time for a ******* nice guy.. girls are shrewd .. they want to **** around and then point fingers at good guys… it is much better to be a bad guy .. I am 29 and have never been in a relationship of any sort .. simply because I was always a nice guy.. always a friend to everybody and I am tired of this… message to all good guys … Please do not fall for this… bye
Saturday, February 4, 2006 @ 2:04 AM